Family Outings


Anyone want to take up a new subject for discussion? How about family holidays and day trips? Did you go on family holidays? Where? How about day trips? What were your favourite spots to head for? Did your parents take you to a lot of country spots? Seaside places? Castles and Palaces and Stately Homes? Let's hear about it, please! Looking forward to reading your stories, Frances

Hi Frances and Gang, I don't recall going away on holidays with the family, but I did do a fair amount of camping. My folks would go to the seaside, i.e., Bognor Regis, Shuburyness (spelling), Brighton, etc., by themselves. I was a Boy Scout for about 5 years, and had great fun camping at the Isle of Wight amonst other places. We slept about 10 to a tent in army surplus bell tents under rather primitive conditions. If one had to go out in the night, it was quite a chore stumbling over all of the bodies, unlacing the tent flap and later trying to re-lace it in the dark. The first thing we had to do upon arriving at the camp site was to dig the latrines. A canvas screen was put up around them for privacy. We also had to build a kitchen area. The tables & everything else were made of branches tied & lashed together. The food was cooked in big steel dixies and was rather plain fare, but we loved it. The comraderie was great and it was a lot of fun having singsongs around the campfire at night. The bottoms of the tent were rolled up during the day to air out the tent, which was really a necessity as we were fed copious amounts of baked beans. When I got too old for scouting, I went camping for a couple of weeks a year with the Brady Boys club, which was located in Whitechapel. I'm sure they're still around, but probably have long since moved out of the East End. Brady's tents were a little better, the food was much better and so was the entertainment. They always put on a great talent show which had been well rehearsed back at the club, and I still remember several of the songs (slightly off color; of course). The second day at camp they would auction off old clothes for just a few pennies each that we would wear around the camp. I still have a picture from that period, of me wearing a sailors hat. We would also use these clothes to make up fancy dresses for our fancy dress party. A few years ago, one of my pals gave me some of the black & white pictures he took back then. Those days were much more innocent then. No one knew anything about drugs or booze, they really were, for me at least, the good old days. Bye for now, Gerry Wiseman

We were too poor to go on many trips before the war, but I do remember going to LLandudno in North Wales for a day trip. I was about five or six years old and can remember that it was a grey, cold sort of day and that paddling in the sea was no fun at all. Still the sheer excitement of travelling , in a charabanc for such a long distance, it was about 90 miles from Coventry, was enough to make that one of the few things I remember from that time in my life. A year or two later My maternal grandmother, Bessie, took me to visit her mother in Knightcote, a tiny village in the hills near the Warwickshire/ Oxfordshire border. I remember the thatched roofed cottage, it was condemned but looked just like all the pictures one sees of "Old English" cottages. Somewhere I have an old sepia postcard showing the very cottage. The thing that sticks clearest in my mind was listening to the rats running in the thatch as I lay in bed in the dark. Again the distance from Cov was only about 30 miles, but we had to change trains at Leamington Spa and arrived at the little railway halt at Fenny Compton. From there it was a 4 mile walk to Knightcote. Incidentally my Gran's family is shown as residing in Knightcote in the Domesday Book. I wish I had some idea what happened in the interim! We visited the oak tree and church where Charles I hid after losing the battle of Edge Hill. By 1938 we had somehow acquired an old Morris Minor car and we spent a whole week at Rhyll, a spot on the Welsh coast about 25 miles from LLandudno. How adventuresome we were! I rmember the weather was much better and I especially enjoyed the Welsh sausages which we were given for breakfast. I wonder if they were really that much different from the ones I was used to, or if the glamorous surroundings and being in another country afected my judgement. Have you notice that the first time you try a new food it always tastes better than it ever does later? Or maybe it's just that I'm queer! I'll be fascinated to hear more of you experiences. Bye for now, Ralph.

Our parents were great on day trips to Hampton Court Palace, Windsor Castle, and so on, as well as going on picnics to Colley (sp?) Hill and Box Hill, but the year's highlight was the annual seaside holiday. Every Summer without fail Dad made sure we all went off to the seaside for a one or two-week family holiday. How he managed this on his wages is a mystery to us now, but if he hadn't made that special effort, my brothers and I would be sadly lacking so many of the happy memories we enjoy now. Those special times with the family will last for as long as we have memory. I wonder if Dad had any idea of just how much he was giving us? For several years after the war we headed for the same place, Eastborne, then we switched to Shanklin, Isle of Wight, for several years. A few days ahead of time Mum packed most of our holiday paraphernalia in the hefty brown cabin trunk that had gone back and forth to Africa with Great Uncle Syd and his parrots umpteen times, and had ended up in Dad's possession. This was collected by the railway company and transported to our destination, so on the journey we were able to travel light, which was better for Dad's heart than lugging heavy cases. When I emigrated to Canada I brought this same trunk with me, and still have it. To me it's a treasure. It was unimaginable to us children that anyone would actually live in a seaside resort! I found it incomprehensible that for some people normal year-round life was right there, in Eastborne, or Shanklin, while, for the rest of us, real life was near London, which had to be escaped from once a year. Remember pebbly beaches at some seaside resorts? We found that making a quick barefooted dash for it lessened the agony a bit by shortening the time of pain. When the tide was out far enough to expose the sand, our parents liked to paddle along the edge - Mum with her stockings off, skirt held up to her knees, and Dad with his trouser legs rolled up to mid-calf. That was as close as we came to seeing our parents in bathing suits! Then there was the daily consumption of a luscious Wall's ice cream cornet. Remember Wall's? For people who seldom saw ice cream the rest of the year, that was a holiday highlight indeed, for Wall's seemed the richest, most delectable vanilla ice cream to be had anywhere. What a treat! We ate it as slowly as the weather allowed, savoring every lick. We also found the time and appetite between meals to occasionally sample the offerings of the beachfront shellfish bar on the Promenade. Shrimps, winkles, prawns, whelks, mussels, cockles, oysters; if it dwelt in the seas surrounding Great Britain the unfortunate creature was destined to end up on a little white enamel plate in a shellfish bar, and sprinkled with salt, pepper and vinegar for the gustatory pleasure of England's holidaymakers. Wonderful stuff! England's weather being what it is, there must have been rainy days that put the damper on things, but all I remember is sunshine and sunburn and Mum slathering Nivea Creme from little round blue tins onto our exposed flesh, which left us oily enough to fry in the sun. So we fried, reddened, peeled, and even tanned, and went home looking like people who had definitely been on holiday. Another "must-do" was time spent on the pier. People liked to saunter along from one end to the other, ice cream cornet in hand, or sit on a bench gazing out to sea, or watch other strollers passing by. While the grownups were doing this, the kids had a high old time on the penny slot machines in the arcade. On the pier at Shanklin, I found one machine that paid impressive dividends, sometimes spewing out ten or twelve pennies for each one I played with. I thought I was on to something great! However, my winnings failed to make me rich because, with a greedy gambler's optimism, I eventually fed them all back into the machines. Easy come, easy go. But fun while it lasted. After the evening meal it was time for something different. "Crazy golf," perhaps, or a visit to the bandstand, where a group of local performers put on a nightly variety show. The shows included serious as well as lighthearted musical numbers, sung in earnest solo, duet, or quartet, and plenty of comedy delivered by a stand-up comedian or comedienne, or in hilarious skits. Usually there was audience participation of some sort, anything from a volunteer being invited on-stage, to hearty community singing accompanied by an energetic band. Then, after our evening on the town, there was no better way to finish the day than by stopping at the beachfront snack bar for a mug of steaming frothy Horlicks, which Mum was convinced would help us sleep. As if we needed help! As Gerry said -- the "good old days"!

Our very favorite activity at Shanklin, was to go out on the water in rented canoes, though these were more like kayaks in that the body of the canoe was closed so that you had to insert yourself through the small opening, and you used a double paddle. We rented them for an hour or more at a time, and off we'd paddle out to sea, with no-one making clear to us what was a safe boundary. I find it horrifying now to remember that none of us could swim (unless you count the five strokes I managed in an isolated confident moment), yet no questions were asked, no life jackets issued, and we went with our parents' permission! Sometimes the water was literally as smooth as a millpond, but normally it varied from moderately to alarmingly choppy, and when the surf got too high the canoe man closed down business until conditions improved. It was here that I first learned the word "squall", when we were warned to be sure to come back within the hour as a squall was forecast. As canoes came in sizes for one or two people, my brothers usually shared a two-seater and I went solo, though we always stayed together. Once, though, I went out alone at high tide, only vaguelly aware that a squall was forecast. Stupidly, I went out much too far - beyond the end of the pier. When the wind came up and the water got very choppy I headed inland, and found it to be no easy task. Fighting the waves with all my strength, using hands and paddle as protection when waves threatened to dash me against the pier pilings, I came pretty close to panicking, and was greatly relieved when I at last got safely to the beach - to be scolded by the canoe man for going out so far. I was twelve or thirteen at the time. One day Dad decided to accompany me. The water was glass-smooth and incredibly clear, and off we paddled with no concern. I had never had any fear of the water and, odd though it seems, had never given a thought to the fact that we were floating on top of water, very deep water, and very liquid, though it usually was opaque and choppy enough to conceal everything more than a foot below the surface. We were out quite a distance and the bottom of the ocean was a long way down, when Dad called my attention to the clarity of the still water - we could see all the way to the bottom, to the large rocks and seaweed that had been there all along, of course. Suddenly, I realized how precarious our situation was; here we were, neither of us a swimmer, while all that separated us from the bottom, so very far down, was the little bit of wood encasing us! My knees felt weak, and I told Dad I was ready to go back to the beach right then. Maybe he had been having the same reaction, for he agreed without hesitation, and we paddled ourselves back to terra firma. Ever after that, I lost all taste for canoeing. One windy day when clouds were heavy and the sea rougher than most people would like, we approached a "MOTOR BOAT RIDES TO VENTNOR!" boat owner for a ride. He hesitated, saying that a squall was expected, but then shrugged and agreed - unwisely, we were soon to find out. Just the three of us with the boatman, not one life jacket between us, we headed out to sea and turned southwest in the direction of Ventnor, the next seaside town several miles along the coast. At first the water was choppy enough to be exciting, but before long the wind increased mightily, the sky darkened, and that expected squall did indeed spring up. The waves, the boatman claimed, yelling over the wind, were "ten-footers," and they hurtled us to their crests, to fall sickeningly down the other side time after time, threatening to swamp the boat. There was not a moment's relief. Our small vessel had become a toy in the hands of a powerful force of nature. At first we were exhilarated, but soon were petrified with fear, and our anxious glances at the boatman's face told us that he had become very alarmed, obviously realizing how foolish he had been to venture out with us. He somehow managed to turn the boat around without capsizing, and headed back to Shanklin at full throttle. Drenched, we three crouched as low as we could, clinging with white knuckles to the sides, water repeatedly crashing over us. The man clung to his rudder, looking grim and sick with worry, as we churned up and down through the water for what seemed like a very long time. I don't know how long it took us to reach safety. The rain was pouring and the wind howling as we came to shore, staggered out onto the dock, and onto the now-deserted beach, into the arms of our frantic parents, who had been beside themselves. We talked about that experience for weeks. Frances

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Hi Gang, Before the war, I can only remember once going away to the seaside somewhere with my family. I was very young, probably under 5 years old, and when I got lost for a short while I can still remember running along the beach, close to panic, looking for my mum and dad. Although I was very young when we lived in the tough Elephant and Castle area, I used to roam the streets without a care. I loved going to Waterloo Station and watched with fascination, the huge steam trains start their journey with lound hisses and puffs and clouds of steam. Sometimes I sat in the News theatre, near the platform and watched the cartoons and the warmth. Other times, I wander around in Newington Butts and other nearby streets. One night in the Butts, there was a noisy religious gathering in a hall and I stood on the pavement and looked in at the colourful scene as the congregation sang loudly and the drums and trumpets of the band played louder still in an attempt to drown them out. I was very impressed and ready for conversion, but nobody seemed to notice me, so I wandered off home, past the delicious smell coming out of the shop that sold jellied eels and pie and mash. Another time, I stood at the back door of my aunt's place as we watched nearby Spurgeon's Tabernacle burn down. One day, before WWII started, when my dad was in the Royal Navy Reserve, we were taken out as a family, for a day in the country, in a car owned by one of the young officers, Due to a faulty lock on the rear door, I fell out on to the road and according to my mother, I was very lucky to survive. I also remember, while we still lived in the Elephant and Castle area, before WWII started , I went away with a group of other kids to Clacton-on-Sea, where we stayed in a smashing big house. I remember, they always banged a brass gong in the hall to announce it was meal time. Once at breakfast, one of the lady helpers told me, gently, to close my mouth when I was eating. I can still remember feeling my face going a deep red. Also, while we were there, a small plane crashed into the sea, just off the shoreline and we heard that someone was killed. They were the only occasions that I remember going away on holiday as a child. Like Ken, we were too poor to go anywhere on a regular basis. Post war, when we lived at Morden, we never went away on holiday as a family. But I used to visit the nearby lovely Surrey countryside by bus or push bike. Once I cycled to Brighton (50 miles) and back, on my old push bike. I also used to visit lovely scenic places that Frances (?) mentioned, like Colley Hill and Box Hill and also Leith Hill and places like Bansted and Wimbledon Common and Putney and Kingston - on - Thames and Hampton Court, etc. I can also remember going on a day trips down to Southend and sucking on the sweet sticky rock with the name Southend magically embedded in the whole length of the stick. I also enjoyed eating the big rubbery welks and other tasty sea foods from the stalls along the sea front and then later in the day, wandering around the Kurzel eating red hot fish and chips. We were materially poor, no doubt of that, but most of the time we seemed to enjoy life. Well, I know I did, I just assumed that everybody else felt the same way. When one thinks about all that we went through as kids, I often wonder what all this latest 'councilling' fuss is really all about. Maybe this is this another topic for discussion? Bye for now, Patrick

Hi Here's another holiday story. During the summer of 1946, or perhaps it was '47, my parents decided that we should visit dear Aunt Ada for a weekend. We arrived at Fordham station late one Friday afternoon and walked up the very familiar Station road, through the quiet village, and up the hill to her cottage on Mildenhall Road. She was as delighted to see us as we were to see her, and we kissed and hugged each other. It was a joyful time for us all. She chattered away a mile a minute, as was her habit, as she got ready to make us a "nice cup of tea." Her conversation mostly consisted of telling us which neighbor had gone to their everlasting reward since we had last received a letter from her. For reasons inexplicable to me, discussions of death always seemed to be a fascinating topic of interest to the old ladies in the village. After tea and a chat, we all decided to take a short stroll to visit some neighbors, where we were proudly shown off. I believe that very few evacuees stayed in touch with their foster parents after leaving the village, so we were pretty much the exception to the rule. That night, my mother and father shared my old four poster bed, while I spent an uncomfortable night on the horsehair covered sofa in the parlor. The sofa was very old, its padding was thin, and the horsehair was slippery. Once or twice I almost slid off the sofa onto the floor. We got up rather late and Aunt Ada made us a hot breakfast of fried bread, fried eggs, fried tomatoes, and fried sausage. We all ate a lot of fried foods in those days so I suppose it's not really surprising that every member of my family, myself included, developed heart disease in later life. After lunch, while we were strolling through the village, we noticed a number of adults and kids milling around the entrance to the recreation field, or rec. Having nothing better to do, we strolled over to investigate. We soon discovered that the annual village sports day and gymkhana was in full swing. From the crowd of people present, it was apparent that most of the distinguished citizens, and almost all the inhabitants of the village were in attendance at the event, and reveling in the summer sunshine. Since very few events of note took place during the year, this was an occasion not to be missed. Flags were flapping in the stiff breeze, lemonade and ice cream was being hawked by vendors from carts containing ice boxes filled with dry ice. Dogs were chasing one another. Babies were bawling. Ladies were walking around, chatting to friends and acquaintances and showing off their summer dresses and flowery hats. It was a gay and light hearted time. We walked over to the tiny, wooden, red, white, and blue bunting bedecked structure which housed the cricket pavilion where several ladies of the Congregational Chapel were selling cups of tea and other light refreshments. I remembered this small building well, it was where the village cricket team & their opponents changed their clothes when playing cricket matches, & it was where we were given religious instruction, when my school mates and I from the Jews Infants School were attending classes at the nearby Victoria Hall. Dad bought cups of tea and a bun for each of us. The steaming hot tea was dispensed into thick white china cups from a large brass urn by one of Aunt Ada's neighbors. It was then that the schedule of track and field events tacked to a bulletin board on the pavilion's front wall caught my eye. We quickly realized that we had already missed most of the contests, but we discovered that we were still in time to witness the three legged race, the sack race, the wheelbarrow race, the piggy back race, the egg & spoon race, and the one hundred-yard dash. Prizes to the winners were to be handed out at the end of the afternoon by the Vicar's wife, Mrs. Prior. With that, we heard the public address system rattle into life with the announcement that it was time for the hundred-yard dash. "Why don't you have a go," said Dad to me, "good idea," said Mum. So I thought, "why not?" and walked over to the starting line painted on the turf, where a number of the village lads were assembling. "Ok boys, one to get ready," cried the starter, "two to get steady, and "three to be off." The pack surged forward. After taking just a few paces, I slipped on a sheep turd and fell to my knees. I quickly scrambled to my feet, but it was too late, all I could see was the backs of the fleeter footed village boys. Although I really tried my best to make up for my unfortunate stumble, I was the last one to cross the finish line. Disgruntled & humiliated, I walked over to my parents and announced "I came last." Instead of receiving a consoling hug from Mother, or pat on the back for trying from Dad, they both thought it was the funniest thing that they had ever heard, and they laughed themselves silly. We left the rec. and walked up the village street, by this time I'd recovered from my initial feelings of chagrin, and was laughing too. My parents really got the giggles, and kept repeating "I came last, I came last." They laughed over it so long and so hard that my mother wet herself, and began leaving wet footprints on the sidewalk behind her. When, as we approached the Green Man pub we met a woman walking down the street toward us, Mum said to Dad in a loud voice "Harry, why did you push me into that puddle?" The woman must have wondered what Mum was talking about, since it hadn't rained for weeks. As time went by, that event became another of the many family stories and legends to be told, retold, and amplified, around our fireplace on cold winter nights. TTFN Gerry

Thanks, Patrick, for reminding me of Leith Hill. I'd forgotten all about that one, even though we used to go there. Also for your super reminiscences. What fun it is to hear stories from different people in this group! I hope we hear from a lot more. Also, thanks to Ralph, for the word "charabanc." My Dad always called them that, but the rest of the family insisted on using the newer word "coach." Did we think we were being slightly modern? I don't know. And you are right about food never tasting quite as good as we remember it. Occasionally we venture into a teeny shop here in California, which sells imported British foods and giftware (the shop has the delightful name of "All Things Bright and British"), and I splurge on something special but pricey, just for sentiment's sake. Although I try to tell myself it's just as I remember it (to salve my conscience for having paid that much for it), to tell the truth it rarely is. Even the bangers, made from the "authentic" recipe, are not quite the ones that Mum used to buy, no matter how much I smack my lips over them now. Ah well. Speaking of charabancs/coaches, remember the "Mystery Tours" that coach companies used to advertise in front of their locations? I think most of them ran a weekly mystery tour, which was very popular. Not only were these offered at seaside resorts, but even Davis's Coaches, at the end of our road in Mitcham, did the same. Davises was a successful business, used by the locals for a "nice day out" at the weekends, as hardly anyone had a car. As I was the Queen of Carsick in those days our family always traveled by train, even though I know Mum and Dad would have liked to go by coach sometimes. When I visited the old haunts three years ago, for the first time in about 30 years (though it had been longer since I moved away), I was pleasantly surprised to find Davises still there! Gerry -- your latest yarn was just great. I could just see it all, and laughed out loud at your Mum's mishap, and the cause of it. Then I got a sudden lump in my throat when I read your lovely tribute to her. You refer to a sheep's turd. What did you call the bovine equivalent? We called them cow pancakes. Once, my brothers and I went on a picnic in a farmer's pancake-dotted field, with Aunty Rose and fun-loving Uncle Jim. As soon as we plonked ourselves down in what we thought was a clear patch, Uncle Jim went into his famous napping mode. Hooking his thumbs in his braces, he started to lie down with his usual "Ah, this is the life!", telling us to wake him up when lunch was ready. Well...we three kids noticed the pancake seconds before his head landed in it. To be honest, we could have stopped him in time, but it was more fun to watch what happened. Aunty Rose had quite a job separating the pancake from the Brilliantine at the back of his head. After that, she wiped her hands vigorously on a serviette, and proceeded to unwrap the sandwiches. All five of us could hardly eat for laughing.

Frances

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Hi everyone, I hope we haven't exhausted the subject of day trips and holidays -- there must be dozens more stories belonging to our members. Please share them! Reading your tale will stir up memories in other members. At least, that's how they affect me. Meanwhile, how about adding yet another subject? I think it would be interesting to hear some tales of how families spent evening get-togethers with relatives. I bet we all had family traditions, as well as some special relatives that are worth mentioning for various reasons. And how about the neighbors, during or after the war? Remember any eccentrics or other unique characters that added flavor to the neighborhood? By the way, today as I came in from 112 degree heat, I found myself saying "Eee by gum, it's hot out there!" in a north country accent. I don't think I've heard or thought of the expression "Eee by gum" since I was evacuated to Sheffield during the war, though perhaps someone on the "wireless" used to say it. I have no idea what triggered my brain to suddenly dig that up from the depths today. I didn't even know I was going to say it till it came out of my mouth. LOL Was it a common expression at one time? In London? In the North? On the radio? Hey, there's another subject for discussion -- expressions we remember. And here I'll dry up.

Frances

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